Consistently in my office when I challenge someone to sit with their emotional experience and hurt related to something that […]
We all have parts
We all have parts, sub personalities, ego states, competing beliefs/feelings/desires that exist internally –different people/theories/cultures call them different things but […]
The Stories We Tell Ourselves and a Culture That Fuels Them…My Story (at least one of them)
We live in a victim blaming culture that holds victims responsible for what others choose to do them, we act […]
Seasons
So many of us are afraid of people leaving our lives that we start to keep people from getting to […]
I’m not enough
Today I was talking with one of my people about messages she has received from her parents, what baggage they […]
Head and Heart Minds pt. 2 – Some people never change
So what does knowing all of this mean? First off, give yourself grace. People (including you) will try to logic […]
Head and Heart Minds pt. 1
Have you ever had a dream where your partner cheated on you and you wake up angry at them ? […]
Strength vs Weakness
If you know me, you know that there is a lot about our culture that I find very backwards and […]
Hungry Baby
Yesterday, I had a conversation with one of my people about something that is very hard to do…allow ourselves to […]
Meet Me
Something that my people hear a lot from me is “When we change and heal, we force people to change […]
What is it about me?
Have you ever started to feel like it must be something about you that over and over, people seem to […]
Color Blind
I often feel like when I talk to my people about healing, it’s like I’m explaining color to someone who […]
Addiction isn’t about Addiction
Today, one of my people who is in recovery from alcohol abuse/addiction, expressed shame at the fact that she almost […]
Hindsight is 20/20
If I would have just… Have you ever noticed how clear it all seems when you look back on a […]
You did the best you could
I asked one of my people this week if they were to rate me on a bull shit meter where […]
Why we push people away
Yesterday, I pointed out with one of my people that after beginning to open up a lot, they were pulling […]
How do we “feel what we feel”?
I often talk to people about the importance of “feeling what they feel”. First off, know that I know that […]
Self Care
I’m on my way to the mountains for the night, this is my happy place where I feel most at […]
“The Vault”
So last night,one of my little people that I’ve known for some time now and has always insisted is not […]
Letting Go of Control-
One of my people said an incredibly insightful thing two weeks ago that I have continued to hold onto. “I […]