Healing Through Connection

This continues to be a post that is ever evolving as I am able to see more patterns evolve in […]

Today, one of my people who is in recovery from alcohol abuse/addiction, expressed shame at the fact that she almost […]

Yesterday, I pointed out with one of my people that after beginning to open up a lot, they were pulling […]

Given my reflection this morning and the fact that I began to elude to his in previous posts, maybe it’s […]

Words that we both hear (and say) far too much and far too little. Wow I didn’t realize how much […]

A few years ago when I was drowning in life dealing with my adopted daughter’s attachment disorder, one of my […]

I just had my own therapy today…yes, therapists have therapists…at least if they’re good they do, and i have an […]

Consistently in my office when I challenge someone to sit with their emotional experience and hurt related to something that […]

We all have parts, sub personalities, ego states, competing beliefs/feelings/desires that exist internally –different people/theories/cultures call them different things but […]

So you’ve tried setting a boundary and it isn’t honored…now what do you do? For relationships in which we have […]

Boundaries…a word we hear all the time and yet is something so hard to put in place in our lives. […]

I have continued to have this blog on my mind over the year and my absence is a representation of […]

We live in a victim blaming culture that holds victims responsible for what others choose to do them, we act […]

A word, a concept that we so often talk about and yet I have found myself having conversations about what […]

So many of us are afraid of people leaving our lives that we start to keep people from getting to […]

Anyone who knows me knows that I am relentless around challenging people to practice self care, to meet their needs […]

Today I was talking with one of my people about messages she has received from her parents, what baggage they […]

So what does knowing all of this mean? First off, give yourself grace. People (including you) will try to logic […]

Have you ever had a dream where your partner cheated on you and you wake up angry at them ? […]

I initially posted the Shame Box in June 202 but as time has gone on, I have found that there […]

I cannot even count the number of times that I heard this growing up. Do what I say, not what […]

This is going to veer off from the direction of the blog a bit but is something that I hope […]

I was talking with one of my people a couple weeks ago and she was sharing her fear of being […]