Words that we both hear (and say) far too much and far too little. Wow I didn’t realize how much […]
Do you have the capacity?
A few years ago when I was drowning in life dealing with my adopted daughter’s attachment disorder, one of my […]
When protecting communicates something else
I just had my own therapy today…yes, therapists have therapists…at least if they’re good they do, and i have an […]
But they’re doing the best they can
Consistently in my office when I challenge someone to sit with their emotional experience and hurt related to something that […]
We all have parts
We all have parts, sub personalities, ego states, competing beliefs/feelings/desires that exist internally –different people/theories/cultures call them different things but […]
It’s been over a year
I have continued to have this blog on my mind over the year and my absence is a representation of […]
The Stories We Tell Ourselves and a Culture That Fuels Them…My Story (at least one of them)
We live in a victim blaming culture that holds victims responsible for what others choose to do them, we act […]
Forgiveness
A word, a concept that we so often talk about and yet I have found myself having conversations about what […]
The Infamous Shame Box 3.0
This continues to be a post that is ever evolving as I am able to see more patterns evolve in […]
I’m not enough
Today I was talking with one of my people about messages she has received from her parents, what baggage they […]
Head and Heart Minds pt. 2 – Some people never change
So what does knowing all of this mean? First off, give yourself grace. People (including you) will try to logic […]
Head and Heart Minds pt. 1
Have you ever had a dream where your partner cheated on you and you wake up angry at them ? […]
Adding to the Shame Box
I initially posted the Shame Box in June 202 but as time has gone on, I have found that there […]
A letter to friends and family about my child with RAD
This is going to veer off from the direction of the blog a bit but is something that I hope […]
Hungry Baby
Yesterday, I had a conversation with one of my people about something that is very hard to do…allow ourselves to […]
What is it about me?
Have you ever started to feel like it must be something about you that over and over, people seem to […]
Color Blind
I often feel like when I talk to my people about healing, it’s like I’m explaining color to someone who […]
Addiction isn’t about Addiction
Today, one of my people who is in recovery from alcohol abuse/addiction, expressed shame at the fact that she almost […]
Hindsight is 20/20
If I would have just… Have you ever noticed how clear it all seems when you look back on a […]
Why we push people away
Yesterday, I pointed out with one of my people that after beginning to open up a lot, they were pulling […]